“Your success and happiness lie in you.” – Helen Keller

This is one principle I teach at my Maverick Selling Business Builder Bootcamp beginning with the opening exercise on Day 1. You are the one who chooses whether you are happy and successful. What do I mean?

 Have you ever asked someone how they are doing and they responded by saying they were above ground so it’s a good day? Their definition of success was relatively easy to meet. They had to be living and it was a good day.

What this shows is they set their bar at an easily achievable spot ensuring they were going to be happy and successful every day they were alive. It was their choice and came from within them.

Each person’s definition of happiness or success is subjective.  It is only given meaning when you choose the criteria to achieve either.

What have you set as your criteria for success?  Take a few minutes to clearly define what that looks like for you. Remember if you don’t know what the goal is, how will you ever hit it?

Now that you have created this list, does your criteria help serve you or are you setting unattainable levels to achieve before you allow yourself to be happy and consider yourself a success? The choice is yours.

And when you want to be happy, find areas of your life to be grateful for each day.  Celebrate those constantly.

Choose Happiness and it will be yours!

 

Do It Different!

 

Paul Finck

The Maverick Millionaire®

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The world has a lot of negative people in it. Are you one of them? Do you expect the worst? Do you criticize more often than praise? It does not have to be this way. A positive attitude can be as simple as changing the way you look at things.

The solution is simple and changing old belief patterns is not always easy to do. Most of us have been stuck in old belief patterns for quite some time. The challenge with negative patterns is that they do not get us what we want out of life.

For example, people often believe the events of our past can pretty much predict our future. With this being the case, people spend a lot of time worrying about the past and the future. By doing this, we miss the opportunity to enjoy today.

So how do we learn to live in the here and now? What we often forget, is that we have a choice. We can choose to experience happiness instead of getting caught up in the chaos of negative thinking. Make the goal of peace of mind and happiness your single most important goal. When you catch yourself falling back into old negative ways, switch your focus back to your goal.

Other factors are also involved. For instance, people spend a lot of time trying to control others; their thoughts, their feelings, and their actions. We can only change how we see the world, other people and ourselves. Once again it boils down to what we choose to do.

We can also learn to see the goodness in ourselves, our relationships and in our work place. Happiness will come easier this way as opposed to finding fault in the world.

A part of having a positive lifestyle is sharing it with others. Focus on how good it feels to do something for someone else without being asked to do it. This is what is called an unconditional gift of love. Look for opportunities to do good deeds for others or give them praise for their abilities. Goodwill can be contagious.

True happiness can also be found through forgiveness. Forgiveness is more than just telling someone, “I forgive you”. It comes from sincere intentions. This will free you from negative feelings such as guilt, sadness, fear, anger, and resentment.

Knowing these principles is one thing, living them is another. It may take time to change old ways of thinking and it is worth the time and effort. When you are willing to work at being consistent in what you think, say and do, true happiness will be yours.

Happiness is fleeting… or is it?  Getting a new car, or getting a raise in salary can set your state of mind to make you feel happiness, but that happiness is not long-term. In a short period of time, the new wears off and you find yourself in the same state of mind you were in before you got the new car or the raise.  Uhg… now what do we do?  Most begin the quest for yet another external thing or event to make them feel that state of happiness again… and again… and again.  The cycle becomes never ending and the feelings continue to be fleeting at best.

In order to truly be happy, you need to decide you’re going to be happy. It’s about making a conscious decision to enjoy the good things in life and allowing yourself to let go of the things you have no control over. Here are the top 10 secrets to changing the way you look at life and allowing the happiness to flow more easily.

1. Stop worrying about what other people think.  Do other people create the happiness in your life?  Do other people give you your happiness?  No!  It’s up to you to decide to be happy.  Make a conscious decision to do what makes you happy in life.

2. Too often we let our fears of change get in our way of true happiness.  Facing your fears not only helps you to realize your true happiness, but it builds confidence in you with each new experience, which creates even more happiness in your life.

3. We spend entirely too much time worrying about things that we have no control over. Bad things happen to us all, but our reaction to any given situation will determine the way we feel about them. Let go of the stress and the anxiety over things you have no control over and you’ll allow yourself to enjoy the things that do matter.

4. Spending a few minutes a day alone in a quiet place can clear the mind and change your entire outlook on life. Letting go of the noise in your head allows you to more clearly focus on what matters in your life.

5. Many people spend so much time focusing on what they feel they cannot do, they forget to look at their strengths. Choosing to focus on your strengths gives you permission to have a purpose in your daily life. Give yourself permission to feel your purpose in life and you’ll feel the happiness expand daily.

6. Everywhere we look there is bad news; newspaper, local news, radio, etc. If a given situation does not directly pertain to you, decide to release it and find positive things to focus your energy on.  (Or choose to not let the information in at all by turning off the TV and radio not read the newspaper.  If there is news that will directly impact your life, you will hear about it soon enough.)

7. Most of us have that little voice in our head that tells us we can’t, we’re not good enough or we aren’t capable.  That negative self talk is zapping your positive energy.  It’s stealing the happiness you deserve.  A great way to quiet the negative self talk is by using positive affirmations.

8. Get excited.  Dance to the music of your life.  Literally turn on the radio and get up and dance.  You’ll feel better instantly.

9. Don’t ask life for a penny and expect $100.  You determine what you’re going to get out of life.  Believe in yourself with absolute certainty.  Believe that what you want is already coming in your life.  Your absolute certainty that life is what you want it to be will open the doors to allow happiness to flow smoothly into your life.

10. It is important that you spend time each day focusing on what you have to be grateful for. Take a look around you and realize everything you already have to be grateful for and the universe opens the doors to bring more good things into your life.

Ultimately it’s up to you to decide to be happy. Happiness is simply a choice that you make. Make the choice today to let go of the negative aspects of life and let the sun shine on your life. Decide today that you’re going to create true happiness in your life.