“Your success and happiness lie in you.” – Helen Keller
This is one principle I teach at my Maverick Selling Business Builder Bootcamp beginning with the opening exercise on Day 1. You are the one who chooses whether you are happy and successful. What do I mean?
Have you ever asked someone how they are doing and they responded by saying they were above ground so it’s a good day? Their definition of success was relatively easy to meet. They had to be living and it was a good day.
What this shows is they set their bar at an easily achievable spot ensuring they were going to be happy and successful every day they were alive. It was their choice and came from within them.
Each person’s definition of happiness or success is subjective. It is only given meaning when you choose the criteria to achieve either.
What have you set as your criteria for success? Take a few minutes to clearly define what that looks like for you. Remember if you don’t know what the goal is, how will you ever hit it?
Now that you have created this list, does your criteria help serve you or are you setting unattainable levels to achieve before you allow yourself to be happy and consider yourself a success? The choice is yours.
And when you want to be happy, find areas of your life to be grateful for each day. Celebrate those constantly.
Choose Happiness and it will be yours!
Do It Different!
The Maverick Millionaire®
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When you look at the globe, you will notice that there are a lot of lines intersecting to lead you to a specific location. This is also the same if you want to get somewhere different in your life; you have to cross many borderlines to get to where you want to be.
Truth is the world is telling us lines separate more than just locations. They separate people. The sad part of it all is the lines which actually create the most impact are the invisible ones… and often, these are lines we create ourselves.
Many times, we draw a line with the intent this will protect us from the hurt, the pain, the frustrations, and the tragedies we want to forget, to not experience and to release. It’s ideal to actually avoid those who may appear to do more harm than good to you – your career, your intellect, your image, your life. Drawing the line would be the best idea at this point. It won’t help to be a part of their circle or be friends. This line is created with the idea of protecting you from negative influences in your life.
Still, as adults, we make a choice whether or not to actually go ahead and risk drawing the line. Why? Simple – it may not be these people’s fault their life turned out to be complicated or messy. The simple fact stands: life is messy – you just have to clean it up. And on top of this, they may be unaware there is a challenge… the old you don’t know what you don’t know idea. We are all complicated until we find someone who detangles these challenges. This person may just need the line erased to find the resource to help them. These lines rarely actually keep people away; they isolate you and keep your social and emotional growth stagnant.
It’s your choice – you can choose to draw lines with each person’s name written on a side keeping you apart or you can cross it. It’s all a matter of dropping the belief you may be wasting your time. After all, if someone else had decided to follow the line, you may have never learned and grown yourself in so many areas.
Many people think that they have to accept whatever life throws at them. They’ll say, “This is my fate, my destiny. I cannot change it.”
YOU CAN CHANGE EVERYTHING. Your FUTURE is YOURS to DESIGN! You always have a CHOICE.
You don’t have to suffer needlessly. Your destiny depends on you, not on external factors.
I know someone who says she just accepts what life gives her because she has done everything she can to improve it.
Guess what her lifestyle is?
She wakes up in the morning, goes to work, comes back home, relaxes, chats with people, watches TV, then goes to sleep. Next day, the same routine cycle ensues.
Huh?!? Is this what she calls “doing her best?”
She believes she has tried her best and just accepts it in her heart that this is her life.
You reap what you sow.
You just don’t sit around and wait for a million dollars to fall from the sky. You have to get off the couch, get your eyes off the TV screen, and get your mind and body to work!
When your life is not “playing out” the way you want it to be, don’t just accept it and say: “This is the life I was meant to live” or “Things will get better some day.” Don’t expect your luck to change, unless you do something about it. When something goes wrong, don’t just regard it as what is your life; rather use it as feedback. Learn your lesson, make the most of the situation, and do something to resolve the problem.
It’s not enough to think positive; you also have to act positive. In other words..
Don’t just stand (or sit) there. DO something to NOW improve YOUR LIFE!
The world has a lot of negative people in it. Are you one of them? Do you expect the worst? Do you criticize more often than praise? It does not have to be this way. A positive attitude can be as simple as changing the way you look at things.
The solution is simple and changing old belief patterns is not always easy to do. Most of us have been stuck in old belief patterns for quite some time. The challenge with negative patterns is that they do not get us what we want out of life.
For example, people often believe the events of our past can pretty much predict our future. With this being the case, people spend a lot of time worrying about the past and the future. By doing this, we miss the opportunity to enjoy today.
So how do we learn to live in the here and now? What we often forget, is that we have a choice. We can choose to experience happiness instead of getting caught up in the chaos of negative thinking. Make the goal of peace of mind and happiness your single most important goal. When you catch yourself falling back into old negative ways, switch your focus back to your goal.
Other factors are also involved. For instance, people spend a lot of time trying to control others; their thoughts, their feelings, and their actions. We can only change how we see the world, other people and ourselves. Once again it boils down to what we choose to do.
We can also learn to see the goodness in ourselves, our relationships and in our work place. Happiness will come easier this way as opposed to finding fault in the world.
A part of having a positive lifestyle is sharing it with others. Focus on how good it feels to do something for someone else without being asked to do it. This is what is called an unconditional gift of love. Look for opportunities to do good deeds for others or give them praise for their abilities. Goodwill can be contagious.
True happiness can also be found through forgiveness. Forgiveness is more than just telling someone, “I forgive you”. It comes from sincere intentions. This will free you from negative feelings such as guilt, sadness, fear, anger, and resentment.
Knowing these principles is one thing, living them is another. It may take time to change old ways of thinking and it is worth the time and effort. When you are willing to work at being consistent in what you think, say and do, true happiness will be yours.