“Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

This quote by our former first lady is right on. So many times people tell me they’ve been told “You’re not good enough.” or “They are better at this than you are.” or “They told me this would never work for me.”. Have you ever had someone say this to you or overheard someone say it to another person?

Here’s an example:

You know what always happens when you start a new business. You always have tons of energy. Then, at some point, you lose your focus and your drive. The business fails because you start looking for the next better opportunity.

You or the person this comment was directed at were being programmed by the person talking to them. Any time someone uses the word “you”, your mind views it as programming your brain. Many times this is unintentional as it is the way many people speak when making generalized statements. Other times it may be the entire purpose.

What you want to be aware of is when you hear the word ‘you’ being said by someone speaking to you, think if this applies to you specifically. If it does and you are OK with what is being said, then allow it into your mind. If what is being said is not something you want embedded as part of your mindset, make sure to deflect this statement.

Why do I offer this as the action step? Your mind is a computer. It takes in all information and applies it. This means unless you decide whether the information is something you want to have as part of your mindset, it is used like you have consented to its use just like a computer program does with the information entered into it.

How do you stop the programming which is ineffective to you? One of the actions I take is simple. When I’m listening to someone talk and they say the word ‘you’ which is a programming word, I say in my head, “They mean them.”. This keeps the statement from being internalized and used by your mind.

This reframe is the perfect way to control what your mind is being programmed with throughout your day. It means you will have to consent to any thought being true before it affects you. This means you now decide what your mind uses and what is throws away as garbage.

Powerful, right. One more way to help you create the life of your dreams!

 

Do It Different!
 

Paul Finck

The Maverick Millionaire®

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“You become what you believe.” – Oprah Winfrey 

Are you happy with where you are right now?  

Do you wonder how you got to this spot?  

Are you looking for a different result?  

The first place to start when you do want a change is to look at your beliefs.  Your beliefs have created the life you currently have.  When you have believed you could do something, you have been able to do it.  Now this doesn’t mean there may not have been some stumbling along the way.  It does mean that each success you have starts with the belief you can do it 

Then how did I end up here you ask?  Along with the positive beliefs which have helped you succeed are the pessimistic ones which hold you stuck.  

I can’t do that.  I’m not smart enough to accomplish that.  I don’t have the money to do that.  I’m afraid of what happens if I fail while attempting that.  Any of these sound familiar in any way?

The negative programming which creeps in – often faster than you might like – does affect the outcomes in your life.  Always start with the belief you can do anything.   Even if you are unsure you could, leave this belief as possible.  

Then ask yourself the most important question to set your mind working to find a method to create your belief – “How can I do ________?”

This question leaves open the search for all the options on how to accomplish the results you want to design your life on purpose.  When you want different results, the first place to start is within your own mind.  Success all starts with the programming of your thoughts.  Keep on focusing them in the right direction so your actions can follow.

 

Do It Different!

Paul Finck

The Maverick Millionaire

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Just returned home from the event I was speaking and coaching at this past weekend in just enough time to get this second post out to you in this series of 6.  If you missed the first one, just click here to see it and fill in the gaps.

As a refresher of our conversation from this weekend, I was talking about the 3 distinct types of people I see at each event and the challenges they experience in creating the success they desire.

These 3 types are:

1.  Those who don’t know what to do to change your results in your life. You know you want something different and either just don’t know what it is or how to get there.

2.  Those who have all the knowledge to achieve a new phase in your life, yet still have taken little to no action on the knowledge. This is the analysis paralysis group as I like to call them.

3.  Those who know what to do, have done it, and still feel like there is more to life than what they have now. This is the group many others view as successful even while they feel there is so much more they want.

Which one of these 3 best describes you and where you are now in your pursuit of happiness in your life?

We agreed the challenge each of the 3 types of people face in many cases boil down to one foundational piece – mindset!

Now where did your mindset or your beliefs come from?

For each one of us, it has come from compiling experiences and knowledge from:
  • parents
  • relatives
  • teachers
  • friends
  • care givers
  • coaches/mentors
  • clergy
  • the news – whether this be TV, radio, print or the internet
  • advertising
  • books
  • videos
  • movies
  • TV shows
  • internet
  • social media

This is just a sampling of places which have created the mindset you currently have.  You see how varied this list is.
Some may even happen whether you are aware of them or not. A simple example is the TV ad which played as you were talking on the phone and all the sudden you are hungry for pizza.  See how this can happen?

How much interaction have you had with all of these influencers and more over your lifetime?  I know, it’s huge to think about.

And it’s not even just when you are awake!!

Have you ever fallen asleep with the television on… or when others were still awake and conversing about anything?  Heck my grandparents used to turn the heat up in the car just to get the kids to fall asleep on winter evenings.

These times when you are falling asleep or are asleep are when your mind is most impressionable.  This is when your conscious mind shuts off and your subconscious mind really gets to assimilate information quickly and deeply.

Who ever thought falling asleep to the Late Show and waking up with an infomercial playing really mattered, right?

You are bombarded all day long throughout your life with messages looking to shape your beliefs and your mindset.

Do you think some faulty information may get in occasionally whether you want it to or not?  If you are sleeping, you have very limited control as to what you are hearing which is programming your computer – your mind – at this particular moment.

The biggest challenge comes in not knowing what these unwanted mindsets are or even if they are present.  Yet they are great at forming limiting beliefs which hold each of us back from attaining our full potential.

Finding the mindset challenges and creating new beliefs to replace them is one of the most powerful ways I help my students.  It helps both on a business level and on a personal level.  Are you now ready for this change in your life?

Each of the 3 types of attendees I see at my events has their own set of limiting beliefs caused from their current mindset.  Each has different beliefs which hold them back from achieving all which is possible.  What is holding you back right now?

In my next post, we will begin breaking down the hidden ways your mind can play games with you holding you back from the goals you have for yourself.  I will break down each of the 3 different types above to shatter some of the common glass walls and ceilings you have now holding you back.

Look for the next post over the weekend.

All the Power to You!

Paul Finck

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I was working with attendees at an event this weekend and it struck me.  No, not an attendee… although I have been known to push hard to help others achieve their potential success.  It is what a great coach or mentor does when it’s needed.

What struck me was the people I keep seeing at my events and working with fit into 3 distinct types… yet each have many of the same challenges to achieve the success they each truly want.

These 3 types are:

1.  Those of you who don’t know what to do to change your results in your life. You know you want something different and either just don’t know what it is or how to get there.

This is you when you realize you are unhappy or unfulfilled with your life after leading it according to what most people have learned from their parents, friends, teachers, etc.

The plan you follow may sound something like go to school, study hard, get a good job, work hard and you will become rich.  Sound familiar?

And you have realized this plan is not working out like you were promised.  Each year you seem to get further away from the dream.

Don’t worry.  I’m here to change this for you.

2.  Those of you who have all the knowledge to achieve a new phase in your life, yet still have taken little to no action on the knowledge. This is the analysis paralysis group as I like to call them.

This type keeps gathering information and training so that when you do move, all actions will be done correctly.  If you are here, you learned exactly what our school system teaches, make sure you get the correct information and study hard to make sure you don’t fail.  No one wants to fail “the test” in their life – whether this is a new business idea being put into action, an investment, or any decision to do something new and different.

I know you will keep reading since I know you want all the information to make the right decision.  I’m here to ensure you get where you want successfully too.

3.  Those of you who know what to do, have done it, and still feel like there is more to life than what they have now. This is the group many others view as successful even while they feel there is so much more they want.

If this is you, your business may be doing well.  You own your own business, are making money, have what appears to be a great life… all the while thinking, I thought there would be more satisfaction to this or is this as good as it gets?

I have great news for you in this group too.  You may be closer to your ultimate dream than you think.

Which one of these 3 best describes you and where you are now in your pursuit of happiness in your life?

What I have found is the challenges each of the 3 types of people face in many cases boil down to one foundational piece – mindset!

Now I know you may be thinking, what do you mean my mindset is my challenge, Paul?  How does mindset have anything to do with me and where I am at right now in my life?  I have other challenges which are much more important to knock out first.

Here is what I will let you in on which I have learned by working with thousands of students over the past 10 years to release us.  Each and every one of us has limiting beliefs which hold us where we are now in our lives. Many times, you have no idea what these are or how to smash them to release yourself to explosive growth and happiness.

Let me give you an example.  When you learned how to ride a bicycle, did you just go out and hop on it and start riding like you do now?  Of course not.

Your parents would run behind the bike holding on to the seat until you got the hang of balancing, pedaling, steering and focusing on what you were doing.  At some point, they would let go of the bike to let you do it yourself.

Well, if you’re parents were like mine, they told you the first couple times they let go of the bike.  As soon as they told me they were letting go, I started to lose my balance and stopped out of fear of falling since I had already experienced that result… not fun.  Are you with me so far?

After a few times of telling me and my falling, my father finally just let my bicycle go without telling me he was going to do it.  I kept right on pedaling down the street another 25 feet before realizing he wasn’t holding me up.

What changed for me in learning to ride a bike?  One thing only – the limiting belief where I needed my father to hold me up to ride my bike.  I did it just fine when I thought he was there.  When I knew he was gone, the limiting belief kicked in and I lost my balance.

My father proved how this belief was limiting by not telling me he was going to let me go… allowing me to succeed.  Nothing else had changed.  Just my belief he was there or not providing me the confidence to ride my bike.

Once I rode without him behind me, I realized I was able to ride a bike without assistance.  This changed my world.  Now I was able to ride all over my area without anyone else’s assistance.  It opened up a much wider world for me.

This is exactly how your limiting beliefs hold you back from the life you want to lead.  Throughout this short email series, I am going to show you what this looks like for each of the types above and how to conquer these mindset challenges.

Now when you know conquering your challenges – be they mindset or other – in person with me would help you, your life and your business, make sure to grab this limited time, FREE offer from me right now by clicking here. It is an in-depth training to show you how to master your mindset to explode your growth and success in all areas of your life – business or personal.

I want to ensure you get past your limiting beliefs and create a powerful mindset to quantum leap you forward in your business and your personal life.

Make sure to watch for the next post where I will dive deeper with the limiting beliefs of each of the 3 types of people… and how to conquer those challenges!

All the Power to You!

Paul Finck

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