Marital Revolution Blogtalk Radio Interview

I wanted to be able to share with all of you an interview Deborah and I did today on Marriage and Working Together with Dino and Shannon Watts at Marital Revolution Blogtalk Radio.  They got us to share some great tips on marriage, business and family that you will love.  These are tips that we use daily in our lives and share with our children.

For anyone that would like to learn more about balancing business and personal demands in their life, you have the opportunity right now to come to my 3-day Mindset Mastery Experience event coming up in Las Vegas, NV on October 14-16, 2011.  Just click here to learn more about the event and get enrolled today: http://tinyurl.com/MMEMG

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Marital Revolution Blogtalk Interview with Paul and Deborah Finck

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Human Mind

The human mind is the most incredible computer you can imagine. Although the scientists are still debating as to the exact location of the “mind”, lets agree it is somewhere in the brain.

Our brain is composed of some 14 trillion brain cells! According to the scientists, humans use less than 10% of these cells and thus less than 10% of their mental capability. Most use even less - probably using closer to 1%. The good news is our potential is virtually unlimited.

For our purposes, imagine that the brain is in two parts: the Conscious mind and the Subconscious (or Inner) mind. The conscious mind does all our day to day thinking, our communication with others and general thoughts each day of our lives. Do you realize that you are thinking at the rate of about 1,200 words a minute?

The Subconscious mind looks after all our involuntary functions: the beating of our hearts, the breathing of our lungs. It also has stored in it every single experience and every thought we have ever made from the moment we were born. Some people believe that it also contains all the memories of our past lives as well. As it contains memories of everything that has ever happened, we can use it to locate information we need. For instance, you may be walking down the street and suddenly bump into someone you haven't seen for a long while. Whilst talking, you are frantically thinking of their name, and suddenly it will come to you, hopefully whilst you are still in conversation!

When it is something that occurred many years ago, your subconscious mind may have to spend a long time locating the necessary information. That is why we can sometimes have a challenge when we go to bed. In the morning the answer will suddenly pop into our heads.

Admittedly, it doesn't work exactly the way we want it to. Although our brain is perfect; It remembers and files away everything. Sometimes our recall is faulty. When something is “on the tip of our tongue”, our brain is searching for the answer. The “search” may take longer than you want it to. The best way to handle this is to temporarily “forget” what you want to remember. Your mind will continue to search and soon it will “come back to you” whilst you are thinking about something completely different. When you are constantly absent-minded, you may consider taking a memory training course or additional personal coaching to increase your focus and capabilities.

There is a third part of our mind also. This is the Super-Conscious mind. Hardly anything is known about it, and this is where everything really important happens. Ideas come from here. So does creativity, and ESP. (Extra Sensory Perception) When you come up with a good idea, it comes directly from your Super-Conscious mind, through your Sub-Conscious mind to your Conscious mind, and it is then up to you to act upon it.

Your Super-Conscious mind is your creative force, and is the most important part of your mind. It contains all the answers to anything you may ever want to know. Writers, artists, composers, inventors, clairvoyants, and all sorts of other people use this part of their mind. Their inspiration for what they create comes from their ability to “tap” into this section of their mind.

A composer may start on a melody and then, all of a sudden, the rest of the tune just comes with no apparent effort on his part. It has all come from directly from the Super-Conscious mind. Your Super-Conscious mind contains all the information of the universe and you have access to it whenever you want. All you have to do is ask.

You have already used it many, many times. Say, for instance, that you have a major challenge that has to be resolved the following day. You worry about it and think about it, and find it hard to get to sleep as it is still bothering you. When you wake up the following morning, the answer suddenly pops into your head. “Eureka” you cry and you happily go and solve the challenge. Where did the answer come from? You did not have it when you fell asleep. It was not in your Conscious mind, nor was it in your Sub-Conscious.

What happened was, while you were asleep, the Sub-conscious contacted the Super-Conscious mind and asked for the answer. Next time you have a challenge of this sort, tell your Sub-Conscious mind about it and say that you need an answer by a certain time.

Overnight is fine, and two days would be better. Don't tell it how you want the problem resolved. Just ask for the answer and confidently expect it to come. Ask again several times during the time limit you have set, and your Super-Conscious mind will solve your challenge.

Start utilizing your Super-Conscious mind more often and tap into the fullest potential of your mind and your fullest potential.

Creative Visualization

How do you use your creative power within to achieve your goals, create wealth, health or happiness in life ?

One effective way to do is to use visualization. Tony Robbins said, ’what you visualize, you energize!’ and that’s true.

Your creative visualization power will motivate you toward your goal.

Creative visualization is the technique of using your imagination to create what you want in your life. Creative visualization activates your subconscious mind power to really attract what you desire into reality. Visualization activates the law of attraction to work for you.

Imagination is the ability to create an idea or mental picture in your mind. In creative visualization, you use your imagination to create a clear image of something you desire to manifest.

Continue to focus on the idea or picture regularly, giving it positive energy until it becomes real…in other words, until you actually achieve what you have been visualizing.

Your mental images of the things you ardently desire must be in minute details and clear. That is the secret of effective visualization.

Follow this 6 step process below on how to do creative mental visualization that get the result you want for your success, health, wealth, to make more money, enjoy a loving relationship or any other goal you have set .

1. Choose a quiet, peaceful and comfortable surrounding. Sit or lie down.

2. Relax yourself. This is very important for your visualization to get a positive result! Breathe slowly and deeply to reach a relaxed state. Your mind should be quiet and calm.

3. Now, mentally visualize the actions you have to perform in order to achieve your goals. Be as detailed as possible. Visualize yourself already in possession of your goals! This is the true secret an act of faith in what you so desired.

4. Use all your senses: taste, touch, hearing, sight, smell and even feeling to associate with what you have to do in your mental picture.

5. Say with conviction you can achieve these goals by working on your practical plan of action. Use positive self-affirmations that you can achieve it. Your self affirmations or self-talks do effect your subconscious mind and tap its power to achieve your goal.

6. Practice it daily. This visualization exercise may take only five minutes and it can do wonders in motivating yourself to perform with excellence and enthusiasm. Fix a suitable time and place to practice it daily. The most ideal periods are just before you sleep at night and just after you wake up in the morning.

Apply this effective creative visualization technique to achieve all the goals you have set for life. Creative visualization works when you really put it into daily practice to achieve success for life!

Burning Desire

Survey’s tell us that only three percent of our population has written any specific goals. They also tell us that seventy-five percent have no goals and the rest have general and unwritten goals. This means that there are a lot of us who spend our days reacting to the situations in which life presents to us. By living life in this fashion there becomes a tendency for dreams to remain dreams, instead of becoming your LIFE. Do you take the time to plan and set goals to lead yourself to higher levels of success and happiness.

What do you want out of life? Have you ever taken the time to give this some specific thought? The question itself can be quite hard to answer. Allow yourself time to answer this question and write specific goals. “I want to make more money” is a vague goal. Write a set amount with a time limit and you have a specific goal.

After a specific goal is made, set a deadline to it. How much time do you need to achieve this goal? Is this a short term goal or a long term goal? We can have a series of deadlines leading to a specific outcome.

At this point, observe the plans and goals and note areas of possible obstacles. Can these barriers be avoided or minimized? We want to be aware of these obstacles but we do not want to over-focus our attention on them. All of our energy needs to be toward the achievement of our goal.

Our mental outlook is an essential part in goal achievement. We need to train ourselves to see positive outcomes. Visualize personal success in terms of the chosen goals. Write and verbalize the goals as if they have already occurred. It is a good practice to start the day with these positive messages. Our day needs to be filled with these messages and even end it with them. This trains our mind to look for opportunities to meet our goals.

Once a plan of action is decided, you need to act on it. The sooner the better. Develop a burning desire to achieve the goal. Share with others the desired goal and ask them for their support. They may not share in your enthusiasm and then again they might. They might even know of ways to help make the goals more available to you. If you cannot get their commitment of support, you are at least reinforcing to yourselves your own goals.

Goals can come from any area. They can involve our personal life, family life, social life, work environment, financial status, or spiritual aspects. The list of possibilities is endless. Just remember, when your mind can dream it, you can achieve it.

Play the Game to Win

Get Moving!

Many people think that they have to accept whatever life throws at them. They'll say, "This is my fate, my destiny. I cannot change it."

YOU CAN CHANGE EVERYTHING. Your FUTURE is YOURS to DESIGN! You always have a CHOICE.

You don't have to suffer needlessly. Your destiny depends on you, not on external factors.

I know someone who says she just accepts what life gives her because she has done everything she can to improve it.

Guess what her lifestyle is?

She wakes up in the morning, goes to work, comes back home, relaxes, chats with people, watches TV, then goes to sleep. Next day, the same routine cycle ensues.

Huh?!? Is this what she calls "doing her best?"

She believes she has tried her best and just accepts it in her heart that this is her life.

You reap what you sow.

You just don't sit around and wait for a million dollars to fall from the sky. You have to get off the couch, get your eyes off the TV screen, and get your mind and body to work!

When your life is not “playing out” the way you want it to be, don't just accept it and say: "This is the life I was meant to live" or "Things will get better some day." Don't expect your luck to change, unless you do something about it. When something goes wrong, don't just regard it as what is your life; rather use it as feedback. Learn your lesson, make the most of the situation, and do something to resolve the problem.

It's not enough to think positive; you also have to act positive. In other words..

Don't just stand (or sit) there. DO something to NOW improve YOUR LIFE!

Are You an Asset?

The world has a lot of negative people in it. Are you one of them? Do you expect the worst? Do you criticize more often than praise? It does not have to be this way. A positive attitude can be as simple as changing the way you look at things.

The solution is simple and changing old belief patterns is not always easy to do. Most of us have been stuck in old belief patterns for quite some time. The challenge with negative patterns is that they do not get us what we want out of life.

For example, people often believe the events of our past can pretty much predict our future. With this being the case, people spend a lot of time worrying about the past and the future. By doing this, we miss the opportunity to enjoy today.

So how do we learn to live in the here and now? What we often forget, is that we have a choice. We can choose to experience happiness instead of getting caught up in the chaos of negative thinking. Make the goal of peace of mind and happiness your single most important goal. When you catch yourself falling back into old negative ways, switch your focus back to your goal.

Other factors are also involved. For instance, people spend a lot of time trying to control others; their thoughts, their feelings, and their actions. We can only change how we see the world, other people and ourselves. Once again it boils down to what we choose to do.

We can also learn to see the goodness in ourselves, our relationships and in our work place. Happiness will come easier this way as opposed to finding fault in the world.

A part of having a positive lifestyle is sharing it with others. Focus on how good it feels to do something for someone else without being asked to do it. This is what is called an unconditional gift of love. Look for opportunities to do good deeds for others or give them praise for their abilities. Goodwill can be contagious.

True happiness can also be found through forgiveness. Forgiveness is more than just telling someone, “I forgive you”. It comes from sincere intentions. This will free you from negative feelings such as guilt, sadness, fear, anger, and resentment.

Knowing these principles is one thing, living them is another. It may take time to change old ways of thinking and it is worth the time and effort. When you are willing to work at being consistent in what you think, say and do, true happiness will be yours.

Celebrate Life!!

"What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I realized it sooner." -Colette

The other day I was listening to someone complaining about how they have to sell their house and downsize to another house in the $250K range. Many people are experiencing a shift in their lifestyle and instead of focusing on what's wrong; it's time to focus on what's right.

We often take so much for granted and when it's gone we are left with only memories. And, sometimes we may be left with regrets of not appreciating what we had, when we had it.

Now is the time to take stock of your blessings. Today, make a list of all the goodness in your life; of all of your many gifts that you may overlook. You are surrounded by so much that is good, so start to focus on it.

There are many ways to master the art of living. One easy step is to start each day with gratitude. By really focusing on your blessings each morning, you will not only begin your day with a feeling of appreciation, it also puts everything else into perspective. It's the perfect way to get in tune with what is positive in your life and help you appreciate what you so often neglect.

Start each day by simply saying, "Thank-you!"

Make Your Future Bright

Your brighter future begins today. You can be the sun shining through on a cloudy day or the rainbow after a storm. You already have what it takes to do so. Do you know what that is? There are no two greater or endearing qualities than love and kindness. You are an expression of these and they are for you to give and receive freely.

It's not always easy to express these invaluable virtues especially when you're feeling angry, down, stressed, impatient, or doubting yourself, another, or life. Your power and strength comes from knowing when you do, YOU will make a world of difference!

These days with a click of a mouse and a few key words you can read or view inspiring acts of love, kindness, inspiration and laughter from around the world, or you can watch the doom and gloom. The choice is yours as to which you look at and what you do.

Whether you choose to forgive, turn the other cheek, agree to disagree, apologize, let bygones be bygones, be loving and kind, offer a smile, give a warm embrace, offer a donation of time, money, food, shelter, or clothing, or lend a helping hand, the decision is yours and yours alone.

Do you want to make the future brighter for you, others, and generations to follow? You don't have to travel far to offer small acts of love and kindness. You can do this everyday and any time of the day wherever you are.

Love and kindness can be shared in all kinds of simple and creative ways. Put your thinking cap on and see what new ways you can make YOUR future brighter.

Integrity

Get in tune with your integrity and let it be a guiding light in your life. There are many telltale signs of how integrity makes life work. With integrity, your life has flow and is obstacle-free, allowing goals to be achieved more effectively and efficiently. Without integrity, your life has holes in it that leak your personal energy, leaving you drained and tired in an obstacle course of unfinished business.

Personal development training teaches us that integrity is about completeness. It is about finishing what you start, such as your goals. When you can see something through to its conclusion, you will advance your integrity into another level of truth. The more truth you have in your life, the more strength and support you have for your personal goals.

The only way to keep everything glued together is to maintain integrity by living in your personal truth(s).
So, to have the life you want, keep your personal integrity intact.